I am heavily addicted to "reality tv" and came across Scott Baio's new show on VH1 ("Scott Baio is 45 and Single"). For those of you who don't remember, Baio had a hit show in the late 80's, "Charles In Charge." I actually remember watching it as a kid but apparently did not realize his hotness. And by hotness, I mean that I did not realize that he had bedded so many top notch chicks. Most of them were pin-ups - Playboy models and such and a lot of them were actresses.
At any rate, the premise of the show is pretty simple - as the title suggests, he is 45, single and wondering why he has this "fear of commitment" looming over him. HA, "fear of commitment". I hate when people say that, it's a terribly overused cliche, like "keeping it real."
So in the first episode, we get a preview of how many chicks he's bagged back in the day and then we are immediatley roped into his current life, which is very much the opposite with one main chick and a relatively normal life. He hires a life coach to set him straight on the ways of love and off he goes on the quest to find out whether or not he wants to live alone for the rest of his life.
While watching, a few things occurred to me:
1. Some women can be extremely bitter, even at an old(er) age. And this is by no means a new founding because I have come across plenty of bitter, sad and hopeless women. But it still never ceases to amaze me when I come across women who hold a grudge against a boyfriend they dated 10 years ago. In one scene, Baio has to revisit some of his old girlfriends to find out what went right and/or wrong in the relationship. One chick is close to the same age as him, happily married (I suppose) and with kids. When he goes to visit her and asks about marriage life, all seems pretty coridal and normal. Then when he gets ready to leave, he says something to the effect of, "I must leave you now." BOY did that open the floodgates! Her reply was "yeah, I'm pretty used to hearing that from you." GEEZ this is a twenty-year old relationship. How can you still possibly harbor such memories and feelings for that long??? In another scene, he goes to visit his first sexual partner, who happens to be the chick from "Happy Days." She told him how at the age of 14, he told her that he wanted to marry her, and she believed him! AT THE AGE OF 14. Do you know how many times I have heard that line in my twenty'ish years of existence? Did I believe it? Not really. But do I still dwell on it today? Hell no! A proposal is not real unless there is a question asked and a ring is presented, and of course you must be of legal marrying age. But nonetheless, it begs a bigger question - when do women begin to take some responsibility in the situation? At some point, you have to realize the part that you played in the fiasco that you call your love life and handle it accordingly. And I don't mean to always come down so hard on my females because men play their part as well, but really, it becomes so obnoxiously redundant to hear a women's hard feelings toward a man who continuously cheats on her when she knew about his wild ways beforehand, a man who beats on her when she knew that he had been in jail on similar charges beforehand and for a man that won't marry her when she chooses to shack up with him. I'm just sayin....
2. It is blatantly obvious what Baio's problem is and trust, he doesn't need a life coach for it. It is pretty apparent what being a child star can do to you (Britney Spears, Lindsay Lohan, Danny Bonaduce...). You live as if you are still controlled by your id, no cares or worries and when you decide that maybe something in your life has gone awry, you have no idea why and no idea of how to correct it. Well in Baio's case, you have this traumatic syndrome over a period of 20 years coupled with the desire to find true love. This is a guy who used to order chicks out of the Playboy magazine and actually get them. He is so jaded and warped that he doesn't know what the hell true emotions are.
3. Do people really need shrinks/life coaches??? I say this, even being a Psychology Major - it is my belief that you can change most things in your life simply by changing your thought process. Focus on the solution, not the problem. Not that it will be easy, but seriously, when it's something minor such as getting over a relationship or losing a job, do you really need to pay someone to tell you what you already know??
I kinda feel for the guy because he has a seemingly nice woman who wants to spend the rest of her life with him and he seems sincere in his quest to make her his one and only forever and it also makes me wonder if this is what regular men go through on a less grander scale. Men are typically the ones to 'spread their wild oats' and it is harder for them to settle down when the time comes. What do you think?
Also be sure to check out "Rock of Love" which is the exact white version of "Flavor of Love."
What you know about ROL?!...Let's give it up 1 time (or maybe 1/2 time) for the girl that begged her way into the house!!! Only to let us see her horribly aged meth-face a little clearer. And yes, she even tops her patheticness by being one of the neediest & the absolute drunkest, all at the same time!
HELL YEAH SHE DID!
And it IS the white FOL...already can't wait to see which bitches fight (um, make that pull hair and scream "bitch") at the reunion :-)
Posted by: Chentastic | July 18, 2007 at 03:24 PM
I just discovered this blog a short while ago, and I can already tell that this blog is on some other ish. Coming from a man, the real reason that we don't commit like we should, is because we don't have to. As long as a woman won't force a man to commit, he won't commit. No life coach needed for that.
As for Rock of Love...another washed up 80s star with his own show? I though VH1 stood for "Video Hits 1" Pardon my French, but what the fuck happened to...well, videos?
Posted by: EF Huttin' | July 18, 2007 at 07:21 PM
I just discovered this blog a short while ago, and I can already tell that this blog is on some other ish. Coming from a man, the real reason that we don't commit like we should, is because we don't have to. As long as a woman won't force a man to commit, he won't commit. No life coach needed for that.
As for Rock of Love...another washed up 80s star with his own show? I though VH1 stood for "Video Hits 1" Pardon my French, but what the fuck happened to...well, videos?
Posted by: EF Huttin' | July 18, 2007 at 07:51 PM