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Hello all!!
I sincerely apologize for not posting anything lately. Life has kind of gotten in the way. But I will be back on Monday and I am on a brand new site. I"m still working on it but my first post will be up on Monday and I have already switched all my posts over to it so join me over there and I appreciate all of you that have been checking for me!
NEW SITE:
http://shewritesstuff.wordpress.com/
I've never heard a Kanye West song that I didn't like and I've never heard a Weezy song that I didn't like for that matter. So put the two together on one song and the result is something like a phenomenon. Kanye is ok on here but the track really lights up once Weezy chimes in. The beat reminds me of some mid-90's east coast joints. The more I hear from Kanye, the more I am looking forward to his new album. I'll always buy a Weezy album but I'm hearing so much from him that it's almost as if the thrill is gone.
Check it out below...
Well I just finished
reading the entire 10th anniversary issue of XXL and it was thoroughly enjoyable. I am quite fond of reminiscing on the music
that I used to love way back when, and they succeeded in reminding me of songs
and happenings that I temporarily forgot about and brought back a flood of
memories for me. I started my freshman
year of college in 1996 and the next 5 years (yea – 5, not 4) of my life were
perhaps the most revealing, entertaining, emotional and exciting years of my
life. Couple that with the fact that
music is at the forefront (or playing in the background) of every step that I
take and there you have it the most fondly thought of hip-hop (and r&b)
memorabilia over the past 10 years of my life…
1997
Singles:
Make ‘Em Say Ughhh –
Master P
All About the Benjamins –
Puff Daddy, Lil Kim, Biggie, The Lox
No Time – Lil Kim
The Rain – Missy Elliot
The City is Mine – Jay-Z
Always Be My Sunshine –
Jay-Z
Mary Jane – Scarface
Tear Da Club Up – Three 6
Mafia
Late Night Tip – Three 6
Mafia, Gangsta Boo
Albums:
Ghetto D – Master P
No Way
Hardcore – Lil Kim
SupaDupa Fly – Missy
Elliot
Life After Death - Biggie
Butterfly – Mariah Carey
Baduizm – Erykah Badu
1998
Singles:
Get At Me Dog
Can I Get A…
Money, Cash, Hoes
Break Ups 2 Make Ups –
Method Man
Rosa Parks - Outkast
Nann Nigga – Trick Daddy,
Trina
HA - Juvenile
Albums:
It’s Dark and Hell Is Hot
- DMX
400 Degreez - Juvenile
Vol. 2 Hard Knock Life –
Jay-Z
Aquemini – Outkast
The Miseduaction of Lauryn
Hill – Lauryn Hill
How U Luv That – Big
Tymers
Suge & Pac, Puff &
Big – Big Tymers
Movies:
There’s Something About
Mary
Belly
1999
Singles:
Down Bottom – Juvenile,
Drag-On
Hate Me Now – Nas, Diddy
Quiet Storm remix – Mobb
Deep, Lil Kim
We Ready – Pastor Troy
We On Fire – Hot Boys
I Need a Hot Girl – Hot
Boys
Albums:
Ryde or Die Vol. I – Ruff
Ryders
Against Da Grain –
Youngloodz
Nastradamus – Nas
Dirty Harriet – Rah Digga
Guerilla Warfare – Hot
Boys
Tha Block is Hot – Lil
Wayne
2000
Singles:
Do It – Pastor Troy,
Rasheeda, Quevo Cold, Re Re
Bang Bang – C-N-N, Foxy
Brown
Ya’ll Don’t Wanna – C-N-N
Oochie Wally – Bravehearts
Country Grammar – Nelly
Is That Your Chick – Memphis
The Best of Me remix –
Mya, Jay-Z
What’s Your Fantasy -
Ludacris
Southern Hospitality -
Ludacris
Albums:
H.N.I.C. - Prodigy
The Reunion
Back for the First Time -
Ludacris
2001
Singles:
Dope Boyz – T.I.
I’m Serious – T.I.
Rock The Boat - Aaliyah
Albums:
Stillmatic - Nas
I’m Serious – T.I.
The Bluepring – Jay-Z
Aaliyah - Aaliyah
2002
Singles:
Why Don’t We Fall in Love
- Amerie
Grindin’ – The Clipse
Wanksta – 50 Cent
Albums:
A Rush of Blood to the
Head
Justified – Justin
Timberlake
Lord Willin – The Clipse
500 Degreez – Lil Wayne
2003
Singles:
In The Club – 50 Cent
Rubberband Man – T.I.
Prototype – Andre 3000
Albums:
Get Rich or Die Tryin
Dangerously in Love –
Beyonce
Trap Muzik – T.I.
The Black Album – Jay-Z
Speakerboxx/TheLoveBelow –
Outkast
Worldwide Underground –
Erykah Badu
2004
Singles:
Bring ‘em Out – T.I.
U Don’t Know Me – T.I.
Still Tippin – Mike Jones,
Paul Wall, Slim Thug
Drop It Like It’s Hot –
Snoop Dogg, Pharell
Lean Back – Fat Joe, Remy
Ma
Albums:
Urban Legend – T.I.
2005
Singles:
Soul Survivor – Young
Jeezy, Akon
Go Crazy – Young Jeezy,
Jay-Z
I Think They Like Me – Dem
Franchize Boyz
Fireman – Lil Wayne
Albums:
Let’s Get It: Thug
Motivation 101 – Young Jeezy
Tha Carter 2 – Lil Wayne
The Emancipation of Mimi –
Mariah Carey
Movies:
Fade To Black
2006
Singles:
What You Know – T.I.
Throw Some D’s – Rich Boy
Where The Cash At –
Currency, Lil Wayne, Remy Ma
My Love – Justin
Timberlak, T.I.
Albums:
King – T.I.
The Dedication 2- Lil
Wayne
FutureSex/LoveSounds –
Justin Timberlake
Movies:
ATL
2007
Singles:
Bed – J. Holiday
International Players Anthem
– UGK, Outkast
Buy U A Drank – T-Pain
Movies:
Transformers
Browsing through blogs
today, I ran across the MySpace blog of Kim Osorio (former Editor-in-Chief of
The Source) and the title immediately caught my eye – “Everybody’s a damn
writer these days.” She compares the new
crop of writers to the new crop of rappers, citing lack of creativity and true
love for writing. She says that being a
writer is the new thing to do now with blogs, upstart magazines and such. To an extent, I agree with her (and before I begin, I am not bashing her, her blog or newbie, online writers). I mainly say to an extent because I am not
yet an accomplished writer or journalist so my hopes are to one day be considered
a great writer. I would love to be
separated from the bunch and recognized for my passion and artistic side. I'm extremely proud of what I do but I have not attained my dream goal and
will do whatever it takes to get there, including maintaining my own blog and
writing for new magazines. Writing has
existed within me since I was seven years old. That’s when I wrote my first poem, which was published in the school
newsletter. I continued to spew out my
heartfelt emotions in this way for the next 10 years. Admittedly, I got away from writing for awhile
in pursuit of other goals which were not truly of my heart. But in 2002, I rediscovered my love of words. I started writing poetry again and toyed
around with ideas of writing a true story of my college experience,
nonfiction erotica, a print magazine and even an online magazine before they
were considered popular. A few years
ago, I began graduate school to obtain a degree in Professional Writing. The scatterbrain that I am, I took up
Psychology and Business as an undergrad student which was a complete waste of
time (on an educational level). So what
is my ultimate goal? Before the
disappointing demise of the magazine, I dreamed of writing for one of my
favorites, XXL. To me, it’s the only
reputable hip-hop magazine and it’s one of the few that I can read from cover
to cover, regardless of the content or subject matter. I can always appreciate the informative
interviews and the angles with which they present the hip-hop culture to
us. But music is not my sole love. I am a fashion ADDICT and would equally love
to be on staff of a prestigious fashion magazine. Vogue, of course is top notch. Besides the amazing clothing, they have the
most exquisite articles within its pages. But I could definitely rock with
InStyle and Lucky!
To find out more about this self-proclaimed martian, PLEASE go to HHNLive.com to read the interview...
http://www.hhnlive.com/features/more/322
MC's in the game (right now), according to MTV.
I saw this special that aired on MTV News this past Sunday in which they listed the top 10 rappers in the game right now. A panel of 10 men, women, MTV producers, editors and writers based their votes on who is new to the game and who is controlling the crowd. But from seeing the contenders, they clearly didn't stick to their plan. Jim Jones and maybe Jeezy are the newest to the game out of all the 10, but I guess these are all the rappers consistently putting out music and a few who are giving us some brain food.
Here's their list...
10. Jim Jones
9. Common
8. 50 Cent
7. Jay-Z
6. Young Jeezy
5. Kanye West
4. Andre 3000
3. Game
2. T.I.
1. Lil Wayne
Seems somewhat off to me. I'm not feeling the Game's position or even his presence on this list. "One Blood" is mainly what I remember and he had a few others that were ok ("Wouldn't Get Far"); Common and 50 should have been higher. The panelists argued for quite awhile over the fact that Jim made the list and not Nas. I agree depending on how you're really tabulating your votes. If it's for lyrical prowess, then hell yea Nas should have been on but if you're talking about crowd possession, then Jim is right where he needs to be. And Andre 3000 at #4?????? Really? Nah, he should get the #1 spot. Yea, he hasn't had a lot of singles as of late, but his one verse on one song murders everyone on the list simultaneously. He and Wayne are both crafty but Andre actually has a lot more to say. So here's my version of the list if I had to pick from everyone that they offered...
10. Game
9. Jim Jones
8. Jay-Z
7. Common
6. 50 Cent
5. Young Jeezy
4. Kanye West
3. T.I.
2. Lil Wayne
1. Andre 3000
Click here to watch as they struggle to pick the #1 spot
photos ganked from Crunk&Disorderly
I think it's cool that Vibe decided to run a cover story on presidential candidate Barack Obama and I might even have to pick this issue up just to see what they'll print about him. But I also wonder how many people will vote for him just because he's black? I know plenty of people who base their votes on who is popular or who their friends/family are voting for which is just wrong on so many levels. I predict that unlike the campaign that Diddy ran last time, the younger generation really is up on their politics now and they will make a solid vote based on who they feel is truly the lesser of two evils and who is fighting for what they believe in (but of course I could be completely naive and overly optimistic). For those of you who don't really know what his issues and views are, all you have to do is go to his website which will give you an overview but also listen to his speeches as well. It's very important to see candidates in action. I'm not big on speaking about politics - I vote for who I vote for and I just leave it at that and besides that, 98% of them are bogus anyway. But since this is going to be one of the biggest races ever, I felt the need to briefly speak on it. So here is some helpful info that you can link to on the candidate. But remember, this is just a starting point.
http://origin.barackobama.com/issues/
So with much hesitation I
decided to sit down and watch one of BET’s new shows last night, “We Got To Do
Better.” If you recall, the show was
originally titled “Hot Ghetto Mess” and was based off of the website of the
same name. The site would often post
videos and pics of black people doing ridiculous things and wearing even more
ridiculous outfits. You’ve probably seen
most of these images in your inbox as I used to frequently receive them from my
co-workers. At any rate, BET’s original
intent was to bring the website to the small tube as if it would be part of
their comedy line up or something, as if that’s what the black culture really
needs right now. In a time where
everything about us is being challenged and defeated, this was definitely about
10 steps in the wrong direction.
So all in all, it was an
awkward, non-provoking, weak attempt of a show. Even funny man Charlie Murphy couldn’t save it. I kept waiting for them to play the sound of
crickets chirping whenever his solo commentary aired. Talk about needing to do better. I can’t find anything on BET’s website about
it since it aired last night so let’s hope they decide to cut it short. Why don’t they just bring back something like
“Teen Summit” and BET News????? All they
do is run the same videos all day. Hell,
even MTV has cut down about 90% of the videos and run more shows and these are
some of the same shows that BET has taken and flipped into their own
version. “Baldwin Hills” is the black
version of “Laguna Beach," " SOB" is the black version of "Punk'd" and they turned a non-MTV show and flipped it - "Hell Date" is "Blind Date."
image courtesy of www.sandrarose.com
If you haven't already seen it, here is the picture everyone has been circulating around the websphere. It's from the final issue of Jane magazine and also features other celebs such as Eva Mendez. Being that I'm not a man, I don't see the appeal (she looks so...strong) but at the same time I'm not a hater and if you like it, I love it. Enjoy fellas!
Besides the probability of this having been a publicity stunt, I'm not sure how well Ja Rule is going to do in today's climate. He seems out of place in the song and the video as well. I don't know if it's the amount of time that he spent away or the dated sound of the song. He obviously knew the status of his relevancy, otherwise he wouldn't have enlisted the hottest rapper/collaborator/remix king out there right now - Lil Wayne, who murders him on this track. Trust, if it weren't for his presence, I wouldn't have even bothered to listen.
A friend of mine brought up a good point though. Many have lost respect for Ja because after 50 shut him and his whole crew down, he didn't fight back and just faded away into oblivion. He had a few songs here and there, I can remember "Clap Back" and "New York" but nothing solid or longlasting. We didn't even really hear much from Ashanti. Even realizing that they had the whole legal situation with Irv, something still should have been done to keep The Inc. in people's mouths. But I guess they're giving it another go 'round: Irv has a reality show due out soon, Ashanti has the single out with Jagged Edge and now this effort. So what do you all think - is his time up???
While scavenging through my roll of blogs the other day, I came across something that made me laugh and think all at the same time. Bossip did a "Quote of The Day" on Melanie Brown in which she says about her new love:
“He’s the love of my life and I’m going to marry him. Stephen’s been a godsend. Eddie hasn’t been in touch once since I had the baby, it’s unbelievable. But Stephen has been a tower of strength. Stephen’s got a much bigger c**k as well!”
tsk tsk Mel B. This is from the same woman who said she had planned to marry him. So apparently the d8ck size couldn't have been that monumental of an issue if you were going to wake up to it every morning for the rest of your life. But why is this the card that a lot of women play after a nasty breakup and most importantly, why do you trash your ex after it's over? To hear about the endless blissfulness of a relationship that was ongoing for two years to all of a sudden hearing things like he was a liar, a cheater, the sex was bad, I didn't really feel that deeply about him anyway reflects badly on the bearer of these words. It shows that either you were stupid to stay in a relationship for that long knowing that all these things were going on and it only ended because the other person ended it or that you are stretching the truth because you're hurt.
And do things like this (putting his lack of manhood on blast) really hurt a man? I guess if it's true then it would but I would hope by now that people realize it's just a silly ploy to mask one's true feelings. I've also heard that eluding to the fact that a man doesn't have a lot of money is another tactic as well in which case you just come off looking like a gold digger and yet and still, you were with his broke azz.
And women aren't the only ones guilty of the bitter quotes. I think men mainly use it in the face of embarrassment such as the classic case when a man tries to spit his top-notch game at a female only to get shot down. You know what he says to that: "F8ck you bitch, you not that fine anyway." Boy stop. I was clearly fine enough to get your attention. Comments such as this only make me mad for about a half a second and then I'm on my merry way. I think it would take much more to hurt me, like "Your writing sucks." But that's just me.
So the next time your ex goes on one of these tirades, just nod, smile, and keep it moving because you both know what the real deal is.
What, was this video done like 2 seconds after Diddy and Kim "broke up?" Say what you will, he is a marketing genius and it seems like he's showing Kim the ropes of the game. I say in about 10 years these two will be tucked away on some private island never to be seen again.
"Celebrity Chick" is the first single from the upcoming DTP compliation, Strength in Numbers. It's good to see that Chingy has come to his senses and hooked back up with the guy who helped get him out there in the first place. The song is catchy with nice production and is a certified club joint and radio burner.
"Duffle Bag Boys," my personal favorite (Playaz Circle feat. Lil Wayne) will be the second single from the compilation and they will soon be shooting a video for it.
Here is the tracklisting as of today, for the compliation:
1. “Celebrity Chick” – by Chingy, Steph Jones, and Small World
2. “Hot Tamales” by Small World, Chingy, and Serius Jones
3. “Jealous Of Me” by Small World, Shawn Jay, and Tity Boi
4. “Don’t Check Me” by Ludacris, Playaz Circle, and I-20
5. “Windy City” by Block Xchange, Shawnna, and Ludacris
6. “The Game” by Shareefa, Serius Jones, Chingy, and Small World
7. “DTP” by Willy Northpole and I-20
9. “Speakers In the Trunk” by Brolic D and Tity Boi
10. “Let’s Go”(Remix) by Bobby Valentino featuring Lil’ Fate
11. “Duffle Bag Boy” by Playaz Circle featuring Lil’ Wayne
12. “Live On Stage” by DTP Family (including Small World, Brolic D, Playaz Circle, Smoke, Willy Northpole, and Ludacris)
13. “Act Like Us” by Playaz Circle, Serius Jones, and Willy Northpole
14. “We Ain’t Worried ‘Bout U” by Ludacris
Reasons That Having A Corporate Job Isn't Half Bad
About three months ago, about the same time I began my blog, I found out that the corporate beast had rendered myself and my co-workers useless and we had two weeks to pack our sh8t and get the hell out. The beast, which we used to affectionately refer to as "I Bullshit Mostly" (which I'm pretty sure you can figure out) had become my home for almost 6 years. It was the first job I had out of college and I really only got it because a family friend knew the hiring manager (remember - it's who you know, not what you know). It was intended to be just a job until I found my career which at the time I can't even remember what I really wanted to do. I know that I always complained about the work and the people and the pay and so forth and was almost happy upon hearing the news. I thought, finally, the shackles have been released and I am free to pursue my real life dreams (but we all know that being complacent will always hold you down and I do not condone it at all). At any rate, since being dumped I have begun to realize that maybe the job wasn't half bad at all.
Here are 10 reasons why...
10. FREE USE OF A COMPUTER AND THE INTERNET
I hardly used the laptop that I paid nearly a stack for at home, unless I failed to complete my homework assignments while at work. Through BellSouth, I purchased the cheapest possible internet package and even purchased one of those little mini hard drives in case I did have to fire up my own personal computer at home and transfer any personal documents from the work computer to the home computer.
9. REST AND RELAXATION
The older women at work used to go on and on about how they loved being at work because it gave them a break from being at home. I never understood what the hell they meant until now. Being at home all day is a whole new world. It's still hectic, but in a very different way. I used to wake up at 5.15 am, get home around 5.00 pm, spend time and take care of my daughter, see the hubby for about 10 minutes before he heads out to work, maybe cook something, and doze off to whatever was on Nick At Nite. Now, it's wake up at 6.30 am, chase my daughter around the house, take her to the park, read to her, listen to the phone ring all day, begin more job ventures, cook nearly everyday, clean up every 15 minutes, take a few shots of whatever liquor we have in stock, stay up until the azz crack of down writing, hit the sack around 3 am and it starts all over again. Even if I have time on the clock to take a nap, I can't because my mind is still running. It's pretty much a non-stop day - no propping your feet up and staring at the computer screen at all.
8. GOSSIP
I usually don't condone gossip and I most certainly try not to indulge in it but I am, for some reason one of those people that gets beat in the head with everyone's problems, concerns, life dreams and whatnots. While at times it got to be extremely time-consuming (they always want to talk when you're trying to watch YouTube clips in your cubicle or make some long-distance calls or sleep or whatever), it did make for a pretty interesting day. I worked with 17 other women and knew everything about every single one of them from who they were sleeping with (astoundingly, 4 of them were sleeping with the same guy at once), to whose marriage sucked to who gets wild at the clubs. Certainly makes you forget about the petty issues that you may have.
7. COOKED FOOD
While I'm not one of those chicks who will say "I don't know how to cook," I basically cook when I have to, which is about every other day and I always wait until the fridge is damn near empty before I begin looking for something to throw on the stove. While working, I ate breakfast and lunch with no effort at all. This obviously is not cheap, since the prices in workplace barfeterias are twice what you'd pay in a five-star restaurant but convenience is everything so on a weekly basis I probably paid around $50+ for food, not including trips to the snack machine or going out to eat during 2-hour lunches.
6. 2-HOUR LUNCHES
Yes, when we break - we break! Not much explanation needed here. This is the perfect time to head out with the co-workers and complain about your day, have a little drink if you dare and catch up on more office gossip.
5. TALKING TO OLD FRIENDS
I'm not much of a phone yakker, and I most certainly don't want to sit on the phone all night once I get home from such a hard day at work, so the perfect time to do all of this is - at work. Especially if the old friends are out of state. Free long-distance!
4. HANDLING PERSONAL BUSINESS
This could probably be merged with #10, but the free use of a large network printer, scanner, copier, fax machine, paper, pens/pencils and whatever other office supplies your office has is PRICELESS. I dabble in real estate off and on and conducted 95% of my business while on I Bullshit Mostly's time. This included searching for properties, making phone calls to see properties, sending emails, making hundreds of copies of homes and directions to each home, faxing contracts, going out for inspections, walk-throughs and closings...the possibilities are endless! I also did a huge bulk of my homework while on corporate time, lots of google-related research, online shopping, paying bills, grocery shopping, running errands...you get the point. You can do all this while still getting paid, and when you get home, you don't have sh8t to do!
3. HAVING SOMEWHERE TO SHOWCASE YOUR STYLE
Having to be somewhere everyday enables you to show off your clothes and your new hairstyle, your latest accessories etc. Being at home most days is just a waste of clothing, and not that I'm drab and frumpy at home (that is SO not the case) but I do feel kind of funny walking around the house or going to the park in 4-inch heels, tight jeans and a low-cut shirt.
2. KEEPING UP WITH MUSIC, ENTERTAINMENT NEWS...
This is perhaps the most hurtful part of the whole debacle. While working, I had time to listen to every single new cd, single, artist, beef battle, entertainment gossip that existed and believe me, I was on top of my sh8t ya'll. I had a routine at work - my hours were from 7.00 am - 3.30 pm so I got in around 7.30, chit-chatted for awhile, went to the barfeteria to grab breakfast, ate at my desk while surfing the web, took a bathroom break, worked while listening to new music, took an hour or so lunch break while reading through the internets, worked until about 2.00, surfed the web some more/listened to music and was in the parking lot in my car around 3.20 pm.
1. A F8CKING PAYCHECK!
While I get money here and there through my various job ventures, there is nothing like receiving a direct deposit on a weekly basis, knowing that you performed the work that was required of you while simultaneously managing your personal life.
I swear, every time I hear "Sexy Lady" it makes me think of Lil Bow Wow
I realize that when we mention 'hip-hop', Bow Wow is not one of the many artists that comes to mind, but you must give him his just due - he's been spewing out hit singles and albums on a near consistent basis since 2000 and he was only like 13 at the start of his career; ruled 106 & Park for like, ever; was the star of The Scream Tour and so on and so forth.
And I really only bring him up because of the recent influx of kiddie/young adult artists and he is nowhere in sight. I expected him to be the younger version of Jim Jones, appearing on everyone's remixes - from Lil Mama to Chris Brown to Sean Kingston. He had a nice song out last year, "Fresh Az I'm Iz" which I'm pretty sure T.I. wrote (or at least sounds like he did) and since then, there's been nothing. T.I. and his former love, Ciara have taken over the scream tour by headlining Screamfest and every time I see that Young Berg video, it makes me think that it should have been Bow Wow's song. Plus, he got booted off of R. Kelly's joint, "I'm A Flirt" by none other than T.I. geez.
We all know that my favorite magazine is XXL and I pretty much read every article in it whether I like an artist or not and lo and behold, there was an article on Bow weezy discussing the hinderance of his kiddie image - his label will not allow him to use profanity, his mom still feels like he's a kid and is not ready for the adult life. He's a 21-year old man living the life of a 15-year old kid, but realistically, how do you escape the image that is burned into everyone's memory of you? There is absolutely no way that he can come out hardbodied, talkin about trappin and f8ckin chicks. Who would take him seriously? It's kinda like he's at Jay-Z's level in terms of outgrowing his audience. It just may be time for him to start producing and developing artists and doing the movie thing. The Price of Fame, indeed.
Nothing prolific, just a random thought that I had...
And this is why I always say that being a child star sucks azz. It almost always ends up in doomsville...
I am heavily addicted to "reality tv" and came across Scott Baio's new show on VH1 ("Scott Baio is 45 and Single"). For those of you who don't remember, Baio had a hit show in the late 80's, "Charles In Charge." I actually remember watching it as a kid but apparently did not realize his hotness. And by hotness, I mean that I did not realize that he had bedded so many top notch chicks. Most of them were pin-ups - Playboy models and such and a lot of them were actresses.
At any rate, the premise of the show is pretty simple - as the title suggests, he is 45, single and wondering why he has this "fear of commitment" looming over him. HA, "fear of commitment". I hate when people say that, it's a terribly overused cliche, like "keeping it real."
So in the first episode, we get a preview of how many chicks he's bagged back in the day and then we are immediatley roped into his current life, which is very much the opposite with one main chick and a relatively normal life. He hires a life coach to set him straight on the ways of love and off he goes on the quest to find out whether or not he wants to live alone for the rest of his life.
While watching, a few things occurred to me:
1. Some women can be extremely bitter, even at an old(er) age. And this is by no means a new founding because I have come across plenty of bitter, sad and hopeless women. But it still never ceases to amaze me when I come across women who hold a grudge against a boyfriend they dated 10 years ago. In one scene, Baio has to revisit some of his old girlfriends to find out what went right and/or wrong in the relationship. One chick is close to the same age as him, happily married (I suppose) and with kids. When he goes to visit her and asks about marriage life, all seems pretty coridal and normal. Then when he gets ready to leave, he says something to the effect of, "I must leave you now." BOY did that open the floodgates! Her reply was "yeah, I'm pretty used to hearing that from you." GEEZ this is a twenty-year old relationship. How can you still possibly harbor such memories and feelings for that long??? In another scene, he goes to visit his first sexual partner, who happens to be the chick from "Happy Days." She told him how at the age of 14, he told her that he wanted to marry her, and she believed him! AT THE AGE OF 14. Do you know how many times I have heard that line in my twenty'ish years of existence? Did I believe it? Not really. But do I still dwell on it today? Hell no! A proposal is not real unless there is a question asked and a ring is presented, and of course you must be of legal marrying age. But nonetheless, it begs a bigger question - when do women begin to take some responsibility in the situation? At some point, you have to realize the part that you played in the fiasco that you call your love life and handle it accordingly. And I don't mean to always come down so hard on my females because men play their part as well, but really, it becomes so obnoxiously redundant to hear a women's hard feelings toward a man who continuously cheats on her when she knew about his wild ways beforehand, a man who beats on her when she knew that he had been in jail on similar charges beforehand and for a man that won't marry her when she chooses to shack up with him. I'm just sayin....
2. It is blatantly obvious what Baio's problem is and trust, he doesn't need a life coach for it. It is pretty apparent what being a child star can do to you (Britney Spears, Lindsay Lohan, Danny Bonaduce...). You live as if you are still controlled by your id, no cares or worries and when you decide that maybe something in your life has gone awry, you have no idea why and no idea of how to correct it. Well in Baio's case, you have this traumatic syndrome over a period of 20 years coupled with the desire to find true love. This is a guy who used to order chicks out of the Playboy magazine and actually get them. He is so jaded and warped that he doesn't know what the hell true emotions are.
3. Do people really need shrinks/life coaches??? I say this, even being a Psychology Major - it is my belief that you can change most things in your life simply by changing your thought process. Focus on the solution, not the problem. Not that it will be easy, but seriously, when it's something minor such as getting over a relationship or losing a job, do you really need to pay someone to tell you what you already know??
I kinda feel for the guy because he has a seemingly nice woman who wants to spend the rest of her life with him and he seems sincere in his quest to make her his one and only forever and it also makes me wonder if this is what regular men go through on a less grander scale. Men are typically the ones to 'spread their wild oats' and it is harder for them to settle down when the time comes. What do you think?
Also be sure to check out "Rock of Love" which is the exact white version of "Flavor of Love."
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